白蘿蔔野菜園

之前自己覺得跟homestay相處的不錯

沒想到我一說要搬走

結果

他們整個變臉

什麼都要跟我收錢

一開始，說洗髮精、護髮乳、牙膏，

我還都特別問过可不可以使用

他說可以

沒想到

現在....全部要跟我收錢

好啊@@~~

而且一聽到我要搬走

一整個face off~~什麼都變的好醜陋啊

當然追根究底就是我自己對two weeks notice不了解

因為我雖然跟他們說我要搬走但是沒有給確切的日期

所以不算數

而且我home 爸還說

如果我要走就還是得給錢

而且360元不能少，那時我說

我沒有那麼多的錢...

他說沒錢沒關係

他要把我的電腦拿走直到我有錢來贖回來...

天啊!!!!!真的很令我傷心

二天後

我再想想，就像我 home pa 說得

他們的是不需要我管，我也不需要為他們操心，

我只要管好自己分內的事情就好了

或許

真的是我自己想太多了

 

something i learned

1.nobody cares what is not their duty ( 事不關己 己不勞心  is their way of doing things)

2.if they don't say is free, then you can't assume is free...

    nobody has to give you anyting for free

3.You should have discussed the first day you arrived

   when you move to a new place, discuss the charges on the first day you arrive

   don't ask if you "can" use it or not.

  you say somehting like, " will internet access be included in my rent ?

  What are the things included in my rent

4.personal space is important
    you need to take care of your own stuff, nobody have to care about anything you 

   ownpersonal space is like, don't walk in to other people's room if they don't say it's okay

   don't answer their phone if they are not available to pick up, just let it ring
 

in a word : there are so many things, just remember  事不關己 己不勞心

 the fundamental of western culture, but there are some exceptions

1.We are in a capitalist world and 個人主義 比較重要

2. 個人 的利益 is what matters, Chinese has this friend and family 的顧慮, but they don't

3.I don't have to scrifice myself to please ( 討好) anyone , including my friends or family

For western there are no "不好意思" in their dictionary
"excuse me "  basically mean " get out of my way, I need to go through"
and some times they say that is because they did something that is not "pleasement" by nature
for example, "sneeze " is not pleasement by nature ( people associate virus, bacteria with it)